In this episode of the Fresh Start Family Show, Wendy’s guest is Mary Van Geffen, a certified Simplicity Parenting Counselor® and Professional Co-Active Coach®, and Parent Coach for Spicy Kids.
Wendy & Mary share how they have similar backgrounds, including both having Spicy Girls that helped lead them to this work and realizing that a lot of the work that needed done was on themselves.
You’ll hear Mary speak to some of the ways you’ll know if you have a spicy kid:
If your child:
- Expresses themself in big and loud ways
- Aren’t afraid to take up space
- Tend to be moving all the time
- Hurt folks unintentionally
- Feel things really intensely
- Are louder than appropriate
- Exhibit a zest for life and have energy to spare
- Use powerful words that can wound or delight
- Are often very aware of others’ feelings yet miss social cues that peers are feeling disgruntled
- Powerfully negotiate until they lose hope and melt down
- Have no problem setting boundaries with adults
- Choose to be completely true to themselves, not others.
- Notice everything from how the chair moved one foot to mom being in a bad mood
- Would love to direct all play with peers
- Can’t be consoled physically
- Can be incredibly sweet, caring and loyal
- Refuse to say “I love you” until they feel it
… then you probably have a spicy kid!
In this episode, you’ll learn 3 Steps to Setting Boundaries with Spicy Kids:
- With Calm
- With Firmness
- With Repetition
What if you could be an effective, firm & kind parent WITHOUT relying on fear, force, bribery & rewards?
Imagine learning a new way of firm (AND kind) parenting so you can end painful generational parenting cycles and create family legacies & memories YOU are proud of?
All while getting your kids to cooperate with your rules and boundaries with ease.
IMAGINE …
Parenting your kids with calm & confidence each day in a way that causes them to do what’s asked of them because they WANT to (not because they HAVE to) … because you’re helping to build essential life skills that have them behaving well & being respectful when you’re NOT looking!
The Firm & Kind Parenting Blueprint is your step by step plan & video training to help you build the family of your dreams. Click HERE to learn more now!
Episode Highlights:
- What are Spicy Kids?
- Why we don’t need a compliant child to be a good Christian
- Tips on staying calm and neutral when we talk to our Spicy ones
- Holding firm to a boundary and allowing them to be upset helps them build resilience and grit
- Why repetition matters with these kids and understanding how boundaries work
- Showing grace and making amends after a messy experience
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Where to Find Mary:
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