In this episode of the Fresh Start Family Show, Wendyโs guest is Mary Van Geffen, a certified Simplicity Parenting Counselorยฎ and Professional Co-Active Coachยฎ, and Parent Coach for Spicy Kids.
Wendy & Mary share how they have similar backgrounds, including both having Spicy Girls that helped lead them to this work and realizing that a lot of the work that needed done was on themselves.
Youโll hear Mary speak to some of the ways youโll know if you have a spicy kid:
If your child:
- Expresses themself in big and loud ways
- Arenโt afraid to take up space
- Tend to be moving all the time
- Hurt folks unintentionally
- Feel things really intensely
- Are louder than appropriate
- Exhibit a zest for life and have energy to spare
- Use powerful words that can wound or delight
- Are often very aware of othersโ feelings yet miss social cues that peers are feeling disgruntled
- Powerfully negotiate until they lose hope and melt down
- Have no problem setting boundaries with adults
- Choose to be completely true to themselves, not others.
- Notice everything from how the chair moved one foot to mom being in a bad mood
- Would love to direct all play with peers
- Canโt be consoled physically
- Can be incredibly sweet, caring and loyal
- Refuse to say โI love youโ until they feel it
โฆ then you probably have a spicy kid!
In this episode, youโll learn 3 Steps to Setting Boundaries with Spicy Kids:
- With Calm
- With Firmness
- With Repetition
What if you could be an effective, firm & kind parent WITHOUT relying on fear, force, bribery & rewards?
Imagine learning a new way of firm (AND kind) parenting so you can end painful generational parenting cycles and create family legacies & memories YOU are proud of?
All while getting your kids to cooperate with your rules and boundaries with ease.
IMAGINE โฆ
Parenting your kids with calm & confidence each day in a way that causes them to do whatโs asked of them because they WANT to (not because they HAVE to) โฆ because youโre helping to build essential life skills that have them behaving well & being respectful when youโre NOT looking!
The Firm & Kind Parenting Blueprint is your step by step plan & video training to help you build the family of your dreams. Click HERE to learn more now!
Episode Highlights:
- What are Spicy Kids?
- Why we donโt need a compliant child to be a good Christian
- Tips on staying calm and neutral when we talk to our Spicy ones
- Holding firm to a boundary and allowing them to be upset helps them build resilience and grit
- Why repetition matters with these kids and understanding how boundaries work
- Showing grace and making amends after a messy experience
Resources Mentioned:
Where to Find Mary:
Sign up for Wendyโs Newsletter
