On this episode of The Fresh Start Family Show, Wendy takes us on a journey through her early motherhood moments that felt alone and despairing that led her to say yes to a positive parenting class and on to become an educator armed with connected, effective tools.
Wendy explains how some see positive parenting as weak or permissive, but how it is actually firm, kind and powerful parenting. Using her signature Firm and Kind approach, she walks us through 5 tips to making an agreement with our kids that will naturally lead to more connection and less pushback.
- Understand the difference between compliance statements & proactive agreements
- Know what you want (vs what you don’t want)
- Slow down and breathe
- Set the foundation of teamwork
- Have them restate the agreement
It is possible to have connection and cooperation in our homes, armed with the right tools. Let’s learn something new that will change the dynamic w/ our kiddos so we can ditch hand-me-down tactics that just don’t work in the long run.
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Imagine learning a new way of firm (AND kind) parenting so you can end painful generational parenting cycles and create family legacies & memories YOU are proud of?
All while getting your kids to cooperate with your rules and boundaries with ease.
IMAGINE …
Parenting your kids with calm & confidence each day in a way that causes them to do what’s asked of them because they WANT to (not because they HAVE to) … because you’re helping to build essential life skills that have them behaving well & being respectful when you’re NOT looking!
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Episode Highlights:
- Positive parenting is not permissive parenting – it is POWERFUL parenting. It’s the middle ground between too firm and too kind.
- Our kids are not broken, the hand-me-down tools we were shown growing up are
- Agreements work with our kids, not against them the way threats do
- Our kids are more on board with agreements when we teach them why it benefits them
- Compliance statements are rooted in external control tactics; proactive agreements are about teamwork, education & firm boundaries
- Agreements are about getting on the same team with our kids, which naturally increases their cooperation
Resources Mentioned:
- I left bruises article: https://freshstartfamilyonline.com/i-left-bruises-a-story-about-imperfection-grace-how-the-bonfire-can-help/
- Threw a book article: https://freshstartfamilyonline.com/mistake-monday/
- Firm and Kind Blueprint www.freshtartfamilyonline.com/firmandkind
- DM the word LIMITS to @freshstartwendy on Instagram for the Free Cheat Sheet
