In today’s episode Wendy & Terry interview Debbie Zeichner, LCSW, is a local Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Parent Coach living in San Diego, CA. She has specialized in working adults, children and families for over 20 years. Debbie is a Certified Positive Discipline Parent Educator, a Certified Redirecting Children’s Behavior (RCB) Parent Educator and a Mindfulness Instructor.
Three ways to use positive discipline to foster creative solutions are discussed on today’s episode:
- When you want to use positive discipline
- Not only when misbehavior arises, but in every interaction we have with our children
- The heart of positive discipline is helping kids choose to do the right thing when no one is watching, forcing, or bribing
- Why you want to use positive discipline
- It creates & strengthens connection between child & parent
- It aides in critical thinking skills, develops responsibility
- It builds up our kids’ character by teaching them valuable life & relationship skills
- It empowers our kids, which leads to greater cooperation & deeper learning & responsibility when misbehavior does arise
- It leads to kids who mature into grown adults who can come up with their own creative solutions to real world problems
- How we want to use positive discipline – with real life examples
- Be a parent who seeks to understand
- Ask more than you tell
- Use your own mistakes as a parent to teach your child
- Connect before you correct
- Make agreements with your child ahead of time
- Allow children to feel their feelings
Inspired by her own parenting challenges, Debbie developed a passion for all things parent-related and began a quest to educate herself and others on positive, mindful approaches to enhance and foster healthy and harmonious family relationships.
In This Episode Wendy & Terry Chat With Debbie About:
- Our kids are our teachers
- Positive discipline is solutions focused & based on connection
- It is a sign of normal, healthy development when our kids test limits & boundaries
- Teaching our kids to understand their value simply based on who they are, not based on how they behave
- Responding to our kids instead of reacting to them takes lots of practice and there will never be a perfect parent
- Having compassion for our kids requires having compassion for ourselves as a parent
- Our kids learn to manage & regulate their emotions by how we manage & regulate our own
- Fear vs. respect in our homes
- Modeling true power & respect to our kids
- Creating an environment where kids are seen, heard, understood, & accepted leads to more cooperation
Mentioned in this Episode:
- Fresh Start Family Online
- FSF’s Membership Program – The Bonfire
- FSF’s Positive Parenting Course – The Foundations Course
- Connect with Debbie Zeichner
- Instagram: @debbiezeichnerlcsw
- Twitter: @debbiezeichner
- Mindfully Empowered Program
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