Sure, maybe they are refusing to get buckled up & you’re going to be late … or winding up to chuck a lego 😂 .

But what’s strange is how everything seems to ignite the same rushed emergency feeling in your body these days, even if it’s just when your child spills their milk or rolls their eyes.

How could it be that things feel so chaotic?

This wasn’t what you signed up for when you decided to be a mom.

Well, from a nervous system perspective, it makes sense.

The truth is, most of us were raised w/ a parenting model that used fear & emotional manipulation tactics to coerce (or force) us into action (or submission).

Even the most loving & well meaning parents adhered to this model & didn’t quite realize the long term damage it would do to a nervous system, designed to keep us safe, but highly responsive to sensing danger.

Feeling rattled when kids misbehave is a result of a nervous system conditioned to believe there is always danger lurking.

… so QUICK, act fast, lay the smack down, jump in & save the day, try to be an octopus with 8 arms, do it all or else you’re falling, quick. go, go, go – there’s no time to think, correct & discipline fast … or else.

Logically, we know a child who refuses to eat their veggies, or share a toy isn’t the same as a bear chasing us … but our nervous system reads it the same when it’s been conditioned to respond to fear for 18 + years.

Over time, our nervous system adopts the tone & feeling of our childhood home, especially when mistakes were made or challenges presented themself.

Stress, Fear, Danger, Scarcity, Disconnection.

And so where to begin if we want to NO longer operate with a disregulated nervous system & pass this cycle of conditioning down to our kids?

The first & most important step is realizing that this is actually a beautiful opportunity that you are becoming aware of this.

You could have gone on living this way, feeling frazzled & out of control …

But you welcomed this message into your life & that’s a beautiful thing.

This is the most important step because when you put yourself in the state of self-awareness, you can then begin educating yourself with compassion about how to change by re-wiring the imprint on your nervous system.

The 2nd step is to recognize that resensitizing your awareness to your options is your goal.

It’s not that you don’t have choices to handle misbehavior in a way that works well AND connects you to your child w/ a regulated nervous system, it’s just that you were consistently being pulled down into a fear based response that kept you out of your creative, logical thinking brain.

I’m dedicated to helping you parent w/ connection & firm kindness … in ways where you feel grounded, confident & empowered when leading & guiding your children as they grow.

I encourage you to check out to sign up for my FREE New Year Kick Start Challenge (mini-course) that starts on Monday 1/22 where I’ll be teaching you how to prioritize connection over correction, nurture your nervous system, discipline with compassion & end painful generational cycles that you don’t want to pass on to your kids.

You can click HERE to get registered now & I’ll send you your challenge prep kit & learning guide to get you all ready to start the mini-course off strong.

I love you & I am honored to have you here. Can’t wait to support you fully through the free mini-course!