Ep. 64 – How to View your Parenting through New Shades

by | January 6, 2021

Ep. 64 – How to View your Parenting through New Shades

by | January 6, 2021

The Fresh Start Family Show
The Fresh Start Family Show
Ep. 64 - How to View your Parenting through New Shades


Parenting with a new healthy paradigm in 2021 with Terry and Wendy Snyder

Today Terry and I are talking all about the importance of having the “right shades on” in parenting. What does that mean exactly? Well we are talking all about that in this episode!

Do you have a kiddo who seems like they are continuously misbehaving and acting out? There’s no doubt that can be super stressful, and it can be easy to let the old paradigms slide in and beat ourselves up as we start to think things like “He’s bad because I’m a bad parent” or “Something is wrong with my child.”

But parents, that’s simply not true. 

Part of putting on the right shades means shifting our mindsets from a self-shaming mindset, to self-acceptance, while still being a firm / kind leader in our home. Sure there are things that we can do to help our kids work through this and there is always room for growth, but their behavior does not mean that we are doomed or that we have to be stuck in this place. 

It’s important to acknowledge the need for growth without the shame or negative self-talk.

Also, when it comes to our kids acting out, having the right shades on also helps us to realize that they are also humans simply trying to figure out life too, and underneath all of that misbehavior is our precious baby who is just trying to communicate their needs with us. 

When we have the right shades on, our energy can then shift from frustration and fear to leaning into the firm kind leaders that we were designed to be!

The practice of having the right shades on in our parenting journey is an absolute game changer.

This simple practice takes work, and patience, but join us in today’s episode to get the tools that you need to expand your toolbox and get the support that you need to truly start viewing your kiddos, family, and life overall through the right shades. It’s truly life-changing!

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Episode Highlights:

  • The needs that are underneath our children’s behavior and why they misbehave when those needs are not met
  • How to shift your thinking from feeling that your kids are always a problem to understanding that they are also humans that are trying to figure out life
  • The importance of becoming aware of misbehaviors and why they are occurring
  • Shifting your mindset from self-shaming as a parent to self-acceptance
  • How to raise intrinsically motivated kids 
  • Why having the right shades on truly makes us the firm kind leaders that we want to be

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If you have a question, comment or a suggestion about today’s episode, or the podcast in general, send me an email at [email protected] or connect with me over on Facebook @freshstartfamily & Instagram @freshstartwendy.


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