Ep. 63 – Using Connection & Vulnerability to Influence our Kids

by | November 21, 2020

Ep. 63 – Using Connection & Vulnerability to Influence our Kids

by | November 21, 2020

The Fresh Start Family Show
The Fresh Start Family Show
Ep. 63 - Using Connection & Vulnerability to Influence our Kids


Using Connection & Vulnerability to Influence our Kids with Terry and Wendy Snyder

We hear you, parents! Raising honest kids is something that we all hope to accomplish, but what happens when we can tell they are keeping things from us – or even worse—straight up lying to our faces?!

If we’re being honest, many times we resort to threatening them, bribing them, or ignoring the issue altogether. If we choose to use force to get the result we want, we risk putting a wedge in the relationship. If we bribe or ignore the issue, we aren’t truly encouraging them to be truth-tellers. 

We get it, dishonesty is absolutely something that needs to be taken seriously, but we need to be sure that we are approaching this topic in a manner that will strengthen our relationship with our kids so that they feel connected and encouraged to come to us with anything and everything. 

Terry and I not only dive into our thoughts on this topic, but we share a real-life example that we recently faced in our own family with one of our kiddos. 

We walk you through how we handled the situation, and share the incredible results that happened through using a firm, kind, connected & vulnerable approach.

At the end of the day, we all want to raise kids who are respectful and honest. Finding common ground, while also trying to appropriately confront the issue at hand can be tricky, but we promise it’s not impossible and we’re here to help!

Listen to this week’s episode for encouragement and tactical steps on how to find the connection and honesty you are longing for with your kids … while also teaching important life lessons! 

We’re all in this together, families! You’ve got this!

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Episode Highlights:

  • How we can influence our kids through connection
  • Sharing a real life story that we recently faced with one of our kiddos about lying
  • Revenge Misbehavior
  • How to confront lying respectfully and how to “hold space” for our kids rather than accusing
  • Raising kids who will respect family boundaries and rules
  • How to create time for connection to encourage vulnerable conversation
  • The importance of sharing that we are imperfect humans too
  • Finding common ground with your kids to get them to open up and make them feel like you are a team and not enemies

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If you have a question, comment or a suggestion about today’s episode, or the podcast in general, send me an email at [email protected] or connect with me over on Facebook @freshstartfamily & Instagram @freshstartwendy.


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