On this episode of The Fresh Start Family Show, Wendy welcomes back the incredible Shauna Shapiro, PhD, who is a bestselling author, clinical psychologist and internationally recognized expert in mindfulness and self-compassion. She was first on the show back in episode 49 but is back, joining Wendy to discuss her new book, Good Morning, I Love You Violet, which shows us how we can teach our kids to embrace the super power of self-compassion.
This episode will inspire you to begin – or continue growing – your self-compassion, which will create a ripple effect with your kids to show themselves self-compassion and resource themselves with this powerful tool.
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Episode Highlights:
- We teach kids how to be kind to others, but not often how to show themselves kindness and self compassion
- Judgment and shame shuts down the learning centers of our brain by activating the amygdala, whereas self compassion activates oxytocin, serotonin and dopamine, which activates learning centers to change and grow
- Self-compassion is about learning to be on our own team
- Our brains are primed for learning the 60 seconds following a mistake, if we can avoid shaming and beating ourselves up and choose to learn from it instead.
- When we are hard on ourselves, others interpret us as hard on them, and likewise, when we are kind to ourselves, others perceive us as kinder with them.
- We’re not teaching that the mistake was ok, we’re teaching kindness around the humanity of the mistake so we can make a different choice next time
- People high in self-compassion are more likely to make amends around a mistake because they aren’t feeling shame around it
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Where to Find Shauna:
Get your copy of her new book Good Morning, I Love You Violet
Ep. 49. Using Self-Compassion to Transform Your Family with Shauna Shapiro
